It is necessary to make the leap into the wisdom of your body. It is through your body that you access a knowing that is far deeper, and wiser, than thought. This includes getting in touch with your anger, rage, grief, sadness, pain, aliveness, desire, and shame. It means taking a look at some of the behaviors that are preventing you from being genuine and authentic in living your truth; old patterns, habits, substance use, and isolation, which keep you from engaging your awareness and being your own sexual authority.
Another necessary aspect of this work is to review and own your own sexual history — every part of it — from the parts that cause you shame to your peak erotic experiences. By doing this, you will be able to evolve into your most unique expression of sexual desire…unapologetic and without condition.
On of our cultural patterns in the West is that men are indoctrinated to be the strong, handsome, hard, long, tough, woman-pleasing providers. This portrayal also includes contradicting narratives, for example the field-playing bachelor and the ultimate family man, devoted to wife and children. The role is a one-dimensional story to be productive and to “do, and it’s no wonder that many men suppress their softness and ridicule each other for perceived vulnerabilities. Men are caught in a painful scenario when playing by these rules and there is a call for change. After all, if not now…when?